Over two thousand years ago the Greeks and Romans had a name for Ghosts and they were called Stoics or Cynics. Epictetus was one of the Greek Stoic Philosophers who's ideas were written down for us by one of his students in the Discourses of Epictetus. There are three books online that I could find with this guys stuff in it but they are more or less the same.
This Epictetus guy had some good advice. The idea was pretty much to focus on what is in our own power and be indifferent to what isn't. Even then, pursing or avoiding what is in our power should be done in moderation.
Ok by me, that's how Going Ghost is, a little bit of effort with a whole lot of pay off in the form of peace of mind, health of body and quality of life. It's all very simple. If I have to jump through ten plus hoops to make someone else happy so we can both be happy I'll just jump through no hoops, dump the other person and be happy myself.
If they don't like it then that is their problem. I'm not in control of them and they don't control me. I got better things to do than deal with their perpetual misery.
So anyway, here were a few of my favorite parts from all three of the books.
A man's master is he who is able to confer or remove whatever that man seeks or shuns. Whoever would be free, let him wish nothing, let him decline nothing, which depends on others; else he must necessarily be a slave.
You can be unconquerable, if you enter into no combat in which it is not in your own power to conquer.
Winning by not fighting?
But for you part, do not desire to be a general, or a senator, or a consul, but to be free; and the only way to this is a disregard of things which lie not within our own power.
Remember that it is not he who gives abuse or blows who affronts; but the view we take of these things as insulting.
If you ever happen to turn your attention to externals, for the pleasure of any one, be assured that you have ruined your scheme of life.
Be mostly silent; or speak merely what is needful, and in few words.
Avoid public and vulgar entertainments; but if ever an occasion calls you to them, keep your attention upon the stretch, that you may not imperceptibly slide into vulgarity.
There are certain things I can't avoid that are public. What goes on now days can be described as vulgar. The only way I can avoid all the BS is by going mentally Ghost even though I have to be there physically. Keeping my attention on the stretch until it is over with.
For be assured that if a person be ever so pure himself, yet, if his companion be corrupted, he who converses with him will be corrupted likewise.
You can say that again brother. Misery loves company and these Blue Pills love their misery. Oh man, it's a constant battle to keep moving and stay detached from all the negativity that goes down around me.
If anyone tells you that such a person speaks ill of you, do not make excuses about what is said of you but answer: "He was ignorant of my other faults, else he would not have mentioned these alone."
Ha, good one, that blows the wind right out of their sails. What that person is trying to do is instigate fighting between others. Like the way chicks do to men. If they can keep the pot stirred by getting others to fight it will generally keep any scrutiny off of them.
If you have assumed any character beyond your strength, you have both demeaned yourself ill in that, and quitted one which you might have supported.
Oh yes let me tell you, if people have inflated expectations of you and you meet 100% of them but don't deliver an extra 10% on top of that, you are nothing but a bag of trash and a total failure. If you play down any expectations starting off as a bag of trash then give them only 10% of the 100% you are truly capable of then suddenly you have exceeded their expectations leaving everyone astonished over this unexpected progress. Amazing how that works.
Women from fourteen years old are flattered by men with the title of mistresses. Therefore, perceiving that they are regarded only as qualified to give men pleasure, they begin to adorn themselves, and in that to place all their hopes. It is worth while, therefore, to try that they may perceive themselves honored only so far as they appear beautiful in their demeanor, and modestly virtuous.
The more things change the more they stay the same. They aren't called mistresses now but "cool girls" and it all starts around that Hannah Montana phase which is about fourteen I guess. Now we can all see how that character turned out.
Never proclaim yourself a philosopher; nor make much talk among the ignorant about your principles, but show them by actions.
I already know not to reason with a Feminist but I need to keep reminding myself of this when I'm around Blue Pill men. They don't want to hear it and to try to unplug them can have it's consequences. Better to remain ambiguous than become the target of their animosity.
And if any one tells you that you know nothing, and you are not nettled at it, then you may be sure that you have really entered on your work.
Nettled? I think it means not annoyed or insulted by it. Perfect, don't mind me, I don't know anything.
Above all, remember that the door stands open. Be not more fearful than children; but as they, when they weary of the game, cry, “I will play no more,” even so, when thou art in the like case, cry, “I will play no more” and depart. But if thou stayest, make no lamentation.
And in some games the only winning move is not to play.
In theory it is easy to convince an ignorant person: in actual life, men not only object to offer themselves to be convinced, but hate the man who has convinced them.
Amen to that, never try to unplug anyone.
Nevertheless a man should also be prepared to be sufficient unto himself — to dwell with himself alone, even
as God dwells with Himself alone, shares His repose with none, and considers the nature of His own administration, intent upon such thoughts as are meet unto Himself.
No better companion than solitude, heard that somewhere before.
“But to marry and to rear offspring,” said the young man, “will the Cynic hold himself bound to undertake
this as a chief duty?”
Grant me a republic of wise men, answered Epictetus, and perhaps none will lightly take the Cynic life upon him. For on whose account should he embrace that method of life? Suppose however that he does, there will then be nothing to hinder his marrying and rearing offspring. For his wife will be even such another as himself, and likewise her father; and in like manner will his children be brought up.
But in the present condition of things, which resembles an Army in battle array,
(Sounds like the way things are today if he means what I think he does.) ought not the Cynic to be free from all distraction and given wholly to the service of God, so that he can go in and out among men, neither fettered by the duties nor entangled by the relations of common life?
Hmm... what to do. Should I just Man Up and... Naaah, I choose the freedom, lolololol.
If any of you, withdrawing himself from externals, turns to his own will, to improve it by labor, and if he has learned that he who desires or avoids the things which are not in his power can either be faithful nor free, but of necessity be must change with them and be tossed about with them as in a tempest and must subject himself to others who have the power to procure or prevent what he desires or would avoid, if in every matter that occurs he works out his chief principles, this is the man who has not travelled in vain.
Oh yeah, forget about jumping through all those hoops to make someone else happy. Which can never be enough or done anyway because they will just keep moving the goal post around on you once they do get you jumping. So I'm Going Ghost on my own power and be happy all on my own, thanks.
Why then are you angry with the unhappy woman that she has been bewildered about the most important things and is become a viper instead of a human creature?
Well that's what happened when I took the Red Pill. It made me kind of mad at first, that I wasn't able to see the viper for what it was. Once I accepted the fact that it was just a snake, I went Ghost and now I'm not angry anymore.
Courage is not inconsistent with caution. For by employing caution towards things which are really bad, it will result that we shall have confidence with respect to things which are not so.
Marriage 2.0 are really bad, Man Going Ghost are not so bad. Ok boss, got that one figured out already but thanks for validating it for me here anyway. *Note to TradCons, throwing oneself into a really bad situation in an effort to save a civilization hell bent on destroying itself is not my idea of courage.
[One Administrator says], "But I can throw into prison any man whom I please." - So you can do with a stone. "But I can beat with sticks whom I please." - So you may an ass. This is not a governing of men. Show us what is profitable to us, and we will follow it: show us what is unprofitable, and we will turn away from it. Make us imitators of yourself, as Socrates made men imitators of himself. For he was like a governor of men, who made them subject to him their desires, their aversion, their movements towards an object and their turning away from it. - Do this: don to do this: if you do not obey, I will throw you into prison. - This is not governing men like rational animals.
It shouldn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out but even back then the Greeks must have had their share of control freaks. I don't think he is saying it's ok to go do anything you want but rather not to force others to "Man Up" when it is not in their best interests.
That we ought with caution to enter into familiar intercourse with men. If a man has frequent intercourse with others either for talk, or drinking together, or generally for social purposes, he must either become like them, or change them to his own fashion. Since then the danger is so great, we must cautiously enter into such intimacies with those of the common sort, and remember that it is impossible that a man can keep company with one who is covered with soot without being partaker of the soot himself.
Another reason to Go Ghost is when I'm around Blue Pill men. They can't seem to build themselves up without tearing some other guy down. I try to get away from them as soon as they approach or else I won't come away without feeling dirty myself.
That we ought not to be disturbed by any news. When any thing shall be reported to you which is of a nature to disturb, have this principle in readiness, that the news is about nothing which is within the power of your will.
This one would apply to most media and some of the alternate media which is all doom porn.
The Hellenes are going to die destroyed by the Trojans. And why did you come hither? Was your desire in any danger? Was your aversion? Was your movement? Was your avoidance of things? He replies, "No, but the wife of my brother was carried off." Was it not then a great gain to be deprived of an adulterous wife?
Ha, that's how I feel about Feminism, it did me a favor in the end.
"Shall we be despised then by the Trojans?" What kind of people are the Trojans, wise or foolish? If they are wise, why do you fight with them? If they are fools, why do you care about them?
That's right, if they want them they can have them.
See God has sent you a man to show you that it is possible. Loot at me, who am without a city, without a house, without possessions, without a slave; I sleep on the ground; I have no wife, no children, no praetorium, but only the earth and heavens, and one poor cloak. And what do I want? Am I not without sorrow? am I not without fear? Am I not free?
Preach on brother Epictetus!
The man who is not under restraint is free, to whom things are exactly in that state in which he wishes them to be; but he who can be restrained or compelled or hindered or thrown into any circumstance against his will is a slave.
Precisely why shaming doesn't work on a Ghost anymore. It is an effort to throw him back into a situation against his will on his own power. I refuse to be slaves to Female Approval and it will take a great deal more than shaming to get me playing that game again.
To this matter before all you must attend, that you be never so closely connected with any of your former intimates or friends as to come to the same acts as he does. If you do not observe this rule, you will ruin yourself.
Personally I like to keep people a certain distance at all times. If they want to be friends, fine but if they start imposing on me, acting like I owe them something, get belligerent or disrespect me then it's Ghost Time.
The wise and good man neither himself fights with any person, nor does he allow another, so far as he can prevent it.
If other men are not being instigated by women into attacking me they usually try to provoke me into taking a swing at them. In either situation I don't argue or get flustered, I just wait them out until they realize it's going to be more trouble than it's worth. On other hand I don't get involved when others are fighting it out either, it's none of my business, I leave the area and Go Ghost.
Remembering this Socrates managed his own house and endured a very ill-tempered wife and a foolish son. For in what did she show her bad temper? In pouring water on his head as much as she liked, and in trampling on the cake sent him.
Filed that under the more things change the more they stay the same.
When a man has seemed to us to have talked with candor about his own affairs, how is it that at last we are ourselves also induced to discover to him our own secrets and we think this to be candid behavior? In the first place it seems unfair for a man to have listened to the affairs of his neighbor, and not to communicate to him also in turn our own affairs. Indeed men are often accustomed to say, I have told you all my affairs, will you tell me nothing of your own? Besides we have also this opinion that we can safely trust him who has already told us his own affairs; for the notion rises in our mind that this man could never divulge our affairs because he would be cautions that we also should not divulge his.
Now as this man has confidently entrusted his affairs to me, shall I also do so to any man whom I meet? No, for when I have heard, I deep silence, if I am of such a disposition; but he goes forth and tells all men what he has heard.
Very important, a Ghost says nothing to anyone that isn't strictly business and related to the job only. If he does have to say something additionally, he pretends like he doesn't know anything or throws out a bunch of happy-go-lucky fluff that doesn't mean anything. Be especially careful around Mr. Friendly who goes around getting in peoples business and bending anyone's ear who will listen. This type is looking for information he can use to stir up strife between others. Be friendly in return but Go Ghost at Warp Speed and stay away from them.
No man is free who is not master of himself.
Well that's it then.
There is plenty more where that came from, some of it is a little difficult to follow though. Just as I thought I was on to something it spirals off into other things but those are the ones that did stand out for me and it all validates why I've Gone Ghost.
The life of a Ghost is pure freedom compared to that of a Blue Pill Beta Provider who's adulterous wife will cuckold him with some type of Bad Boy. Once that happens, she will turn on him in the worst posible ways. There is no way in hell I'm going to put myself in either one of those positions playing the role of the Bad or the Nice Guy when I can just as easily Go Ghost. The job pays better and you can't beat the hours.
Gone Ghosting... and maybe buffalo hunting, too.
If you are going to carry, don't let anyone see it. It will attract too much of the wrong kind of attention. Particularly that of White Knights always looking out for an opportunity to save the planet.
Clarence Daniels had just crossed the threshold of Walmart's front doors on Tuesday, in search of coffee creamer for his wife, when the gun in hip holster gave a well-intentioned vigilante the idea he was up to something more sinister.
From the Walmart parking lot at 11110 Causeway Boulevard, Michael Foster, 43, of Lithia had watched Daniels, 62, take from his car the handgun — for which he holds a concealed carry permit — and place it on his hip underneath his coat, Hillsborough sheriff's deputies reported.
As Daniels entered the store, a label for the coffee creamer in his pocket in case he forgot the brand, Foster tackled him to the ground and placed him in a choke hold, sheriff's spokesman Larry McKinnon said.
"He's got a gun!" deputies said Foster shouted.
"I have a permit!" Daniels yelled back multiple times, McKinnon said.
The men struggled and were separated until law enforcement arrived on scene just before noon.
Foster was arrested and charged with battery.
"Unfortunately he tackled a guy that was a law-abiding citizen," McKinnon said. "We understand it's alarming for people to see other people with guns, but Florida has a large population of concealed weapons permit holders."
The Sheriff's Office recommends that vigilante-inclined citizens refrain from taking matters into their own hands, especially when an incident is gun-related.
"You better make sure there's a good reason," he added. "Otherwise you might be confronting a guy that is legally permitted to carry a gun."
Wasn't there a time not too long ago when no men went anywhere without being armed, ever? I don't know about you guys but it seems to me this White Knighting is happening with more frequency. Maybe men do need to start going around armed again. I have had a few close calls myself lately but they thought the better than to jump me and I'll just leave it at that. Probably a good thing for Clarence that no one did call 911 to report, gasp, my fingers tremble just writing it, "a gun"... eeeeek, there I said it. Then he would have had White Knight cops down on him. In which of course "fearing for their lives" they would have just killed him. MGTOW / Going Ghost... Your Life May Depend On It.
My knowledge of ancient writings has been limited to the Old Testament and the usual Greek and Latin classics that mainly had to do with history. There was enough in them though which mentioned the bad behavior of women and the worship thereof as goddesses that it reminded me of what we see occurring today in the form of feminism. During my research on Jezebel I was looking into the Pythia. A class of priestess in the Temple of Apollo at Delphi. Plutarch who's book I've read on Sparta was also priest there who was responsible for interpreting the omens of the Pythia (Oracle of Delphi).
I thought I would have a look into what that guy had to say about all that when something caught my attention. He was somewhat opposed to Stoics and Stoicism.... what, wait a minute. Was Stoicism a philosophy or some school of thought at one time? Isn't being stoic a manly quality kind of like the way the Spartans were and why would he be opposed to it?
Ok, let's take a look.
We do not possess a single complete work by any of the first three heads of the Stoic school: the ‘founder,’ Zeno of Citium in Cyprus (344–262 BC), Cleanthes (330-232 BC) or Chrysippus (279-206 BC). Chrysippus was particularly prolific, composing over 165 works, but we have only fragments of his works. The only complete works by Stoic philosophers that we possess are those by writers of Imperial times, Seneca (4 BC –65 AD), Epictetus (55–135 AD) and the Emperor Marcus Aurelius (121–180 AD) and these works are principally focused on ethics.
Stoics were concerned with the active relationship between cosmic determinism and human freedom, and the belief that it is virtuous to maintain a will (called prohairesis) that is in accord with nature. Because of this, the Stoics presented their philosophy as a way of life, and they thought that the best indication of an individual's philosophy was not what a person said but how that person behaved.
Later Stoics such as Seneca and Epictetus emphasized that, because "virtue is sufficient for happiness", a sage was immune to misfortune. This belief is similar to the meaning of the phrase "stoic calm", though the phrase does not include the "radical ethical" Stoic views that only a sage can be considered truly free, and that all moral corruptions are equally vicious.
Stoicism was one of the most important and influential traditions in the philosophy of the Hellenistic world. It claimed the adherence of a large portion of the educated persons in the Graeco-Roman world. It had considerable influence on the development of early Christianity. The Roman Stoics, Epictetus, Seneca, and Marcus Aurelius were widely read and absorbed by the Western cultural tradition. Indeed, the very word 'stoic' has, in the popular sense, become synonymous with 'philosophical' and has come to represent that courage and calmness in the face of adverse and trying circumstances which was the hallmark of the ancient Stoics.
That Hellenistic period was time when the world was transitioning from a Greek to a Roman one.
The Hellenistic period is the period of ancient Greek and eastern Mediterranean history between the death of Alexander the Great in 323 BC and the emergence of the Roman Empire as signified by the Battle of Actium in 31 BC and the subsequent conquest of Ptolemaic Egypt the following year. At this time, Greek cultural influence and power was at its peak in Europe, Africa and Asia, experiencing prosperity and progress in the arts, exploration, literature, theatre, architecture, music, mathematics, philosophy, and science. It is often considered a period of transition, sometimes even of decadence or degeneration, compared to the brilliance of the Greek Classical era.
The Stoa Poikile or Painted Porch, originally called the Porch of Peisianax was erected during the 5th century BC and was located on the north side of the Ancient Agora of Athens. The Stoa Poikile was one of the most famous sites in ancient Athens, owing its fame to the paintings and loot from wars displayed in it. The Stoa was the location from which Zeno of Citium taught Stoicism. The philosophical school of Stoicism takes its name from having first been expounded here, and was derived from the Greek word stoa. Zeno taught and lectured to his followers from this porch.
Stoicism originally emerged at quite a volatile period in Greek history, when Athenian city-states were being conquered by foreign empires. It developed as a way of staying sane amid all that chaos. An important part of the therapy of Stoicism was to remind yourself at all times of what you can control and what you can’t. We can’t control geopolitics, we can’t control the weather, we can’t control the economy, we can’t control other people, we can’t even control our own bodies, not entirely anyway. The world is beyond our control. It’s a rough and unpredictable environment that is constantly changing. The only thing we can really control are our own thoughts and beliefs. If we remind ourselves of that, and focus our energy and attention on our own beliefs and opinions, then we can learn to cope wisely with whatever the world throws at us.
Basically those Stoic Greeks were taking a look around, seeing the ship was sinking and coming to the conclusion early on that there wasn't anything they could do to stop it. May as well kick back, go their own way and enjoy the decline. They couldn't change the world they lived in so they opted to change the world that they could, their own.
This all sounds very familiar.
Getting back to Plutarch (46-120 AD), I can start to understand why he didn't like this Stoic way of thinking. Being a Greek and a priest in the Temple of Apollo in Delphi Greece that would make him a member of the state or ruling class. He would have had an interest in keeping the traditions going. He needed the male disposability of those Greek Warriors coming in consulting his Oracles on their way to fighting wars for the empire but was going out of business as they realized there was nothing in it for them anymore because it was all getting hosed away back home.
The idea of Stoicism moved on into the early Roman world but seemed to have died out as life began to get cushy again. Greek gods and goddesses were replaced by Roman onesall the while Roman Emperors were increasingly declaring themselves to be gods too. Come to think of it, if ancient hypergamy was alive and well and the women where thinking themselves as goddesses what is a poor mortal Alpha Emperor to do? He would have to one up them in their narcissism. Which they did, then proceed to play the bad boy with impunity, which they did that too. Once again though the Romans like the Greeks were not too happy with all this nonsense. New ideas of living removed from the world, away from a degenerate society and it's gods came in the form of Christianity in place of Stoicism. They were saying screw this by going off grid leaving the empire to collapse all by itself. Which it eventually did despite all the shaming language and persecution aimed at those pesky Christians determined to go their own way.
There are a few audiobooks out on YouTube that should make for some good listening on the subject.
Another "See I Told You So". It's not just the bad behavior of females that men have to be wary of. It's also their White Knight enablers who will kill them for the sake of female approval. Those are the guys MGTOW have to go their own way or go ghost from for the most.
A false accusation of rape allegedly caused a man to beat his cousin to death in a hotel room Wednesday morning, according to State Troopers.
Beat to death by his own cousin. What ever happened to Bro's before Hoe's? If this dude was MGTOW he wouldn't have been in this situation to begin with.
Abraham S. Stine, 39, was charged Thursday with one count of second-degree murder for beating Wesley Lord, 37, to death. His girlfriend, Dominique Natalie Vasquez, 31, also was charged with one count of second-degree murder for her actions during the incident.
He wouldn't have been smoking crack either, he would have better things to do with his life.
According to charging documents, Vasquez had been smoking methamphetamine and drinking alcohol with Lord and two other men — one of whom is her third-party custodian — earlier in the evening. Vasquez and Lord started having consensual sex after one of the men went to the bathroom to take a shower.
The other man was present in the room while the sex was taking place and told troopers that at no time did Vasquez tell Lord to stop.
And guess who just happens to show up right in the middle of all this?
Vasquez and Lord stopped having sex when the man got out of the shower, at which time Stine showed up outside the hotel window. Vasquez, who was not wearing pants, told the two men to tell Stine that Lord had raped her. Both men complied, according to statements they made to troopers.
"Let's you and him fight".
Stine, who is a large man, crawled through the window and attacked Lord. According to one of the witnesses, Lord was a small man and did not fight back. The witness told troopers Stine punched Lord in the face for five to 10 minutes and would not stop when the witness told him he should. The witness said that at some point during the attack Vasquez covered Lord's mouth with her hand and appeared to be choking him.
White Knights will stop at nothing to gain female approval even if it means killing their own cousin.
Stine asked Vasquez for a rag after the attack was over and tried to wipe the blood from the floor, according to the witness. Both men told troopers they left after the incident and took a cab to the Super 8 Motel.
Stine called troopers at 4:58 a.m. and told them Lord had raped his girlfriend, Vasquez, while she was passed out in the room. Stine told troopers Vasquez left the hotel in the company of her third-party custodian after the attack and that Lord was passed out in the room.
Wow... you see how it is. This dumb ass thinks he is such a hero that he even calls up the State Troopers to let them know he just murdered his own cousin. These guys are a lost cause.
Troopers arrived and Stine led them to the hotel room. Troopers found Lord lying face down and naked on the floor. They began to handcuff him (The White Knighting continues) and noticed his hands were stiff and he was not breathing, according to charging documents. Medics were called and Lord was pronounced dead at the scene.
Lord showed obvious signs of injury to his head and appeared to have sustained blunt force trauma. There was a large pool of blood under his head, according to troopers.
The room was littered with empty soda and alcohol bottles and a bloody rag was found next to Lord's head.
Slowly, the light bulb begins to shine in more rational minds.
Vasquez admitted to placing her hand over Lord's mouth and told troopers she lied to Stine because she was afraid of what he would do if he found out she had cheated on him, according to charging documents.
Vasquez was charged with second-degree murder for trying to silence Lord during the beating and for "inciting Stine to beat (Lord) with the false allegation of rape," according to charging documents.
I counted not just one but at least five White Knights in this story and it took that guys death to make at least a couple of them realize that chick was lying all along. This is why there will never be an organized Men's Movement. Too many men still believe what women say is automatically true without questioning them and are all to ready to throw other men under the bus before any truth is sorted out.
This is also why men need to keep going their own way or go ghost because this is what the problem is. All some Jezebel has to do is point the finger and in the right set of circumstance it can get men killed by other men. White Knights seem to think all the justification they need to kill another man is the say so of some female. The PUA's (Pussy Beggars) will never talk about this side of their Game but I will. Because I have been fingered enough times to know this is how it goes down in the real world. No amount of Magic Game is going to get a man out of a situation where a false accusation can be made to stick, until it's too late to sort out. Then no amount of Game whatsoever will bring him back from the dead.
MGTOW... The Life You Save Could Be Your Own.
If there is one Princess that can not rescued it's the Jezebel. The Jezebel is far more dangerous to men than the most hardcore Feminist is. Although every Feminist aspires to be a Jezebel not all Feminists can be one. While they all possess the prerequisite hatred of men not all of them have the physical attractiveness necessary to disarm unsuspecting men of their better judgment.
This by the way is the only exception to the "AWALT" rule in which "NAWALT" does apply.
The goal of the Jezebel is the destruction of good men. She targets those men simply because they are good and naïve to her deception. Religious and political organizations are magnets for Jezebels. Jezebels are in a permanent state of rebellion against themselves, against men and even their own children. They perceive themselves to be victims therefore rationalize that anything they do to anyone "had it coming him". In that way all the wrong they do to others is justified in their minds having placed themselves in the right. Psychological justification is the essential component that enables the bad behavior. With this attitude that they are always right comes an arrogance that does not allow for any criticisms of their actions. For those who have fallen under their control one must simply do as the Jezebel says without question and even worship them for the privilege getting bossed around. To do anything less will trigger a vindictiveness that will not rest until adequate punishment can be metered out. This retaliation will be accomplished with passive aggressive hostility or malicious gossip intended to damage that person by discrediting them in some other way.
For those not under her control they must be either taken over or destroyed. Depending on if the target has something the Jezebel wants or is perceived as a threat.
The usual objects of desire the Jezebel is looking for are status and wealth. This is where they use sex as tool for control on men to get what they want. Once a man is stung he will be bled dry until he has nothing left to offer. Afterwards she will simply dismiss him as someone she is no longer "in love" with.
Anyone perceived as a threat or has rejected her sexual advances can expect the full force of the dark side to be thrown at them. There will be far more than malicious slander involved. It will be false accusations designed to get that person killed if possible through the use of proxy violence.
This is where the life of MGTOW is effective in defeating the Jezebel.
The MGTOW has nothing a Jezebel wants to begin with which puts him off her radar for the most part. He doesn't exhibit the usual indicators of wealth, power or status that she is hunting for. Expensive clothes, vehicles and homes are nothing more than shark bait to a MGTOW.
In addition MGTOW do not seek high Religious, Political, Institutional or Corporate positions which covers almost the rest. I say almost because there are circumstances when a MGTOW can find himself elevated closer to powerful positions by virtue of the fact that he is trusted over time not having any desire to take these position. If a Jezebel is nearby or materializes on the scene it will invoke her immediate wrath to divide and conquer.
She can't not allow someone like that around who may be able to see through the fog of her confusion.
In which case it will be up to the individual MGTOW to determine whether or not he has anything in his personal life which can be used against him. False accusations will fly and if there is even a hint that there may be some truth to it he is doomed. The powers that be will seek to protect their own positions at the expense of the accused.
At the same time if a MGTOW is bullet proof in his ways the attacks will be her own undoing. It will even be an opportunity for him to strengthen any areas of weakness that come under fire. Eventually others will become weary of her escalating troublemaking at that will be the end of her.
The Jezebel always overplays her hand.
The rest of the way MGTOW will have to avoid all contact when possible. Any communication which is less than worshipful or isn't in total agreement with them can result in an attack. Even unknowingly coming into a too close of proximity gives them an opportunity to point the finger instigating violence.
These evasive maneuvers would not be necessary if it wasn't for the White Knighting that is still very prevalent in the real world. Because of men's need for female approval they somehow believe assaulting other men to gain it is perfectly heroic. Those are just the kind of Blue Pill men the Jezebel seeks out to do her bidding.
A MGTOW maintaining his indifference, his emotional detachment from the provocation of being fingered while standing his ground as the moment passes is enough for the White Knight to realize there was no real threat involved. Our hero sulks away reflecting on what just happened while she is pissed that her ploy failed to achieve it's desired end... Let's you and him fight.
It's a win / win for MGTOW.
A Jezebel is defeated, a Blue Pill wannabe hero moves a little closer to the Red Pill and a MGTOW glows with the satisfaction of knowing he is winning the war without fighting the battles.
MGTOW... Wining Without Fighting.
GWW called it 2 years ago, that Feminism would self destruct all on its own. Before then the Manosphere had been saying basically the same thing only describing it as the Misandry Bubble. That famous post which explained in detail how Feminism would play itself out but it was GWW who came up with the term Fempocalypse. The future point in time when the economic prosperity that enabled Feminism to become prominent would end when men would withhold their surplus labor from women and society. We see that now with Grass Eaters and MGTOW.
It was also predicted that Feminists would not back down allowing the situation to stabilize by leaving men some if any incentives to come back into the program. No way that's going to happen. That instead they would double downmaking even more outlandish demands on men which would ultimately lead to the Misandry Bubble blowing. We are also seeing that now with the increasing public rejection of Feminism and Feminists.
So here we have our fearless InfoWarrior Paul Joseph Watson to explain just how crazy the Feminists are getting as of 2014 and some of the rejection already blowing back at them.
Yeap, they have lost it alright and I agree that they will continue to lose their grip on reality as it sets in on them.
Here was the original Fempocalypse video from 2012.
And while economists in Japan are freaking out over Japanese men going their own way, men don't actually have to consciously go their own way to bring about a Fempocalypse. They don't need to start rioting all over the place like in London, or begin waking up en masse to the fact that the "male privilege" they supposedly enjoy amounts to "shut up and get to the back of the line" the way it did at the Occupy protests. All that needs to happen is for us to keep right on giving women everything they want and keep right on marginalizing men, and eventually there won't be enough surplus productivity on the ground to hold up the increasingly bloated system women require, and it will fall.
Looks like we're there sister.
MGTOW... Good Night, Thanks For Playing, Happy 2015.
It always amuses me how the married dudes can't bring themselves to admit they made a huge mistake by signing up for the Marriage 2.0 upgrade.
To think that could have been me once but not anymore. They will have to find some other sucker to buy them a house they can throw him out of. Maybe those ISIS dudes would be happy to sign up for that deal.
This morning I got into smaller discussion with my wife right felt that there was a lack of respect in the discussion. So I decided to Institute one of my beliefs with regards to you staying married and asserting yourself.
Let me warn you married guys right here. Once you leave they can call the cops and make up any story they want. The cops and the system will go with anything she says. At that point you lose everything. You better stay there and video what happens. Take the beating if she throws one then you got her. Then you have proof the bitch is crazy and she is the one lying. Then she gets arrested and is the one that goes away.
Let me also warn you soon to be married guys. Now that things have gotten this bad to where men are forced to video women's bad behavior in order to protect themselves you are better off staying unmarried. It amazes me how so many dudes think this is never going to happen to them, until it does.
When you aren't getting anywhere positive in discussion the best thing may be to take a walk, take a break, go to your second location,
Oh I took a break alright, a permanent one, by booting them out of my first location, problem solved with no further interruptions or relocations required.
in my case it was 430 and I had a bug out bag ready to go which is really just had a big hug was totally prepared to chill out in an urban setting.
Ask yourself if this is any way to live? Keeping a "bug out" bag ready to go for any moment when princess throws a temper tantrum. Screw that.
For the most of the morning I stayed at a McDonalds right grab a cup of coffee then later went to a restaurant or listen to some good music and talking with some interesting people and after taking another hour long bike ride and ended up at a park shot this video and enjoy the Morning Sun and I warmed up. This 45 hour track must have made it in person because I received a call from my wife and she was very loving and apologetic and asked me to please come home but she might reward me in some way. This motivated me quite well as I was home in the next 10 minutes.
Reward? I don't think so, it's not worth all the trouble to me. While LTRs can be nice at times, the one day in a hundred when a storm isn't blowing, most of the time it isn't. Not to mention the legal liabilities they come with like getting kicked out of your home and thrown into jail on a trumped up false allegation. Screw that... again.
Happiness is peace of mind, a peaceful life and a peaceful home, not a piece of ass. None of those things will come with packing a squaw. It probably never did but nowadays it can be particularly hazardous for men to have them around.
With emotionally out of control women on the one side and a violently out of control police state on the other. This is no place I want to be in the middle of. There are plenty of other places men can find happiness that are not in squeezed in between lunatics and psychopaths. I'll be going my own way thank you very much.
“The most beautiful ones they take for their wives and say ‘now you have to be Muslim,’” said Sister Hatune. The others are forced to convert or die. Many have been slaughtered in front of their parents
“Muhammad came and he brought killing, beheading, pedophilia. He slept with a 9-year-old girl, he married when she was 6 years old. We know because she says it herself in the Hadith. In Yemen today, where Shariah is the law, they have to marry the girl before her first menstruation, maximum of age 13, because it is written.”
The Quran also gives Muslim men permission to rape girls and women who are held captive as slaves (Sura 23:5-6).
In conquered cities, ISIS has marked the homes of Christians with a red symbol of the Nazarene. They are then visited by ISIS militants who bring unspeakable horrors upon the families
Muslim apologists in the West say the verse is taken out of context by “Islamophobes,” but Sister Hatune believes otherwise.
“Those of us Christians from Middle East. We know them. We know their rules,” she said.
“Education is not allowed for the girls. The women are created for the sex for the gents,” she said. “If she becomes raped she has to bring four men with her as witness. Of course it is impossible, so she will be stoned. There are so many women and girls who die from stoning.”
“America is inviting its own slaughterers to its door,” she said, referring to the U.S. policy of taking in Muslim refugees through the United Nations refugee program.
That’s a message many churches in Minnesota were not ready to hear, said Debra Anderson, who heads a local chapter of ACT! For America and sponsored Sister Hatune’s recent visit.
“She wanted to do something active. She felt faith without works was dead,” Anderson said. “But it was rough trying to get her invited to speak at the churches in Minnesota. Some of it was her message. She is very critical of the Muslim governments.”
One church group that invited her to speak gave her a reception that Anderson described as “cool.”
They visited an order of Catholic nuns and “five or six of them walked out near the end of her presentation,” she said.
“Some of the photos of human suffering she showed in her presentation; I think they were really shaken,” Anderson said. “I don’t know that they had ever been challenged in their way of thinking like that. But it was all facts. We told them to check out other experts.
“But I had this one nun just interrupt me and say, ‘I am not going to listen to her anymore,’” Anderson said. “I had a hard time getting her into the churches. I really did.”
One of the nuns from the convent in Minnesota interrupted Sister Hatune’s presentation with a specific concern.
“Sister, that’s enough,” she said, voicing her concern about a potential backlash against Muslims in the community if Sister Hatune’s documentation were to ever get widely disseminated.
The nun says Islamic culture is basically “like a dog,” in that it must be confronted. If there is a void or a weakness in the Christian culture, the Muslims will sense that weakness and continue to march through and intimidate the native culture.
“You cannot be afraid of Islam culture,” she said. “If you run, they will come after you like dog culture. You must stand your ground. I don’t say fight. I say resist. I say to them, ‘Stop. I don’t want you. I have my own God.’ They come here thinking to conquer the country. If they don’t accept the American way of life, go back to your home. The government has to understand this.”
Sounds more like a pack of wolves but is any of this of any concern to the Feminists?
Let's take a look at a few of the popular Feminist sites and see what the general focus of their attention is on.
That was a couple of hours worth of searching and it seem to me what they thought applied to their subject of Rape Culture in the world. No mention of ISIS atrocities in any of those places. Just as I was about to give up though I did find one singular story on the topic.
And the winner goes to Jezebel:
Terrorist group du jour and demonic pieces of chit ISIS — also known as Isil and the Islamic State — have had a busy year, beheading journalists and aid workers and terrorizing large portions of Iraq and Syria. The group is also systematically raping, torturing and enslaving hundreds of women and girls, a new report from Amnesty International finds.
Now I'm not one to give the Feminists any advice but if they want to be taken seriously in terms of fighting for the cause of women worldwide I would think they would have a little bit more to say about this than in one post.
What were some of their more popular posts recently?
While they were ticked off about the Rolling Stones issue they do like their romance novels but in the end it was the doggy they were most excited about.
Ok, so that's it... I can't take looking at their trash anymore. Whatever floats their boats I guess but you see how it is. My conclusion is that they can't say anything about this.
They are so completely invested in the idea that America is the worst place on earth that any woman can live in that if they were to acknowledge what was going on around the world they would also have to own up that life in the US really isn't all that bad.
Hell will freeze over before that happens.
Problem is if this trend continues that may be what they get. The Sister called it already. The communities from over there have already been transplanting here and it's even worse in Europe. Before long it could be equal opportunity Sharia Law for all of them.
In which case that glass ceiling will finally get smashed in a hail of stoning... directed at them.
Good luck with that ladies, I'll be watching the show from a distance.
This is it, this is the week, from Christmas Eve to New Years Day, that's when my journey into MGTOW all began. It all started during my last and final LTR. I had been lurking around an area of the internet of what was then broadly described as the Blogosphere. In particular a compilation of linked blogs and boards dealing with the general topic of why western women and marriage was a bad deal for men, a couple of sites about seduction and also a few on Fathers Rights issues. Later on this area had been defined as the Manosphere. Breaking it down further, the avoidance of western women and marriage became MGTOW, the art of seduction developed into PUA utilizing Game and Fathers Rights expanded into the Men's Rights Movement. At the time though I was simply looking for some kind of explanation or solution to the relationship problems I had been running into since my return from an extended period outside the US. It was a good thing I had something to compare my night and day situation to. I couldn't believe the demands they were making after experiencing much hotter, more enthusiastic and overall pleasant to be with foreign women. I saw the good but couldn't understand the bad and the ugly.
That was in 2004 and what I had obviously discovered was that I wasn't alone in my experiences nor were my problems near as bad as others were but they were all consistent. These men where reporting all the same kinds of bad behaviors I was witnessing. Extreme since of entitlement, no concern for others, completely self absorbed, takes no responsibility for their actions, blames everyone else for their problems, is always the victim, draining of energy to be around and uses sex as a weapon or tool for control. That was only the beginning, any man unfortunate enough to sign the marriage contract afterwards got to experience the entire spectrum of the Family/Divorce court industry with the added bonus of going to jail with the purpose of squeezing every penny out of men the system could get. The word from these blogs was... DON'T DO IT!!! Don't get married, don't shack up and whatever you do don't knock them up. Sounded like a good idea to me but other groups of men weren't happy with those of us who were taking those measures in their personal lives. Oh no, that was letting the system win, we had to do something, we had to advocate for change. The system had to be reformed. My argument was screw it, walk away from it. Why change a system you could never trust again even if you could change it? Stay out of it and let it collapse on its own. After getting my comments deleted and being banned enough times from certain Men's Rights Advocates boards I started my own blog as a place to post my comments without having to deal with mods who didn't care for my sentiments. In December of 2006 my LTR ended with a bang or more like a volcanic eruption. Because of my work I had to cancel out on a trip planned for Christmas. She didn't like that all too well and had a complete melt down over it. It was purely coincidental but later on I had found that the best time to break it off with them if the desired effect was maximum drama is just before Christmas. But that wasn't the intent and at any rate I had had enough of this attitude of complete inflexibility anyway. Good riddance and the next morning I could feel the weight on me was gone. I was a free man... again. As it turned out I didn't have to work after all and because I had already had the excuse of a previous arrangement had dodge attempts to commit me to other engagements. For the first time I could remember I had the whole week to myself. It was golden and I kept wondering why I had never done this before. No endless amounts of driving around, sitting in traffic or sitting at dinners I didn't want to be at listening to conversation I didn't want to hear. Of course there were always the barrage of "why aren't you married yet" questions from the women folk but the men knew why and also knew better than to voice their opinions on the subject. Secretly they would tell me "I wish I had your life". Later on in 2007 I had discovered MGTOW and immediately identified with the concept. I completely understood the problems they were having with the MRAs being that it was the entire reason I started my own blog. I certainly wasn't an MRA but didn't know I was MGTOW until then.
MGTOW began as a result of XYZ, a very popular Men's Rights, or MRA, forum being erased 3 separate times from 2000 to 2003. Some of the members were weary of having a resource created, populated with information and links that other people could use, and then having that resource destroyed, over and over and over. This site has now abandoned all MRA content and the links to the MRA content, internal and external, on the current version of the site are all dead.
Several people who were members of the XYZ Forum created a secret forum (one we shall not disclose) and recruited members from other forums to their new, anonymous location. Several of them set up a time for a meeting, and two (Mr. White and Mr. Orange) showed up at bar in 2003.
They sampled many of the fine ales and lagers and created the idea of a decentralized, non-political movement that would support men and their choices in the face of widespread scorn, indifference and hostility. The next day they met at Mr. Orange's hotel suite and fleshed out the idea some more, sketched a logo, and a framework of sorts. Since it began as a decentralized 'organization' it has no leader, no official message board, no website (although many have websites and forums that support it's ideals), there is no 'there, there' to organize, attack, censor, eliminate or shame into submission.
It is everywhere and nowhere.
MGTOW is not a philosophy, or an "-ism", but rather an evolving consciousness and way of looking at the world. Unlike the lockstep and dogma of so many contemporary movements, MGTOW is entirely individualistic, even though many men may arrive at the same conclusions from having observed the same phenomena.
Perfect, no groups to join, no egos to argue with, just make the determination to go your own way and do it.
While there are three main goals of MGTOW I'm only concerned about the first one. Maintaining my masculinity by maintaining my freedom from attaching my self worth to that of female approval. I'm not going to jump through hoops for it and I'm certainly not going sign a one sided marriage contract for it. I'm not going to engage in the relationship power struggles anymore either. In fact if there is any approval or disapproval to be done it will be done by me and if that makes me a loser by society's standards then so be it.
As for the two other goals, they will take care of themselves if men ever learn to live independently of female approval and stop attempting to dominate other men for the sake of gaining it.
Every man supporting this idea is welcome to use the logo in this or similar contexts.
Ok, I will or at least until the idea gets undermined and twisted into something else it wasn't meant to be then I will move on from there.
You will basically be alone doing this. There is no organization supporting you. You just go your own way and do what you believe is right. You are never obligated beyond your own conscience. True masculinity is also about accepting the rights of other men and not letting them down for any short term personal benefits.
IF IT'S NOT RIGHT, GO YOUR OWN WAY!
Take it from me, you'll be happy that you did. Every time this year I remember that first MGTOW Christmas / New Year and how awesome it was. To this day I have no regrets. So happy MGTOW week, it can be any week or every week of the year of your choosing but this one just happens to be mine.
Part Deux of The Sexodus continues. The jest of it is that men who have successfully adapted to their environment are extreme and fringe. This is troubling due to the rapidity with which men are opting out of a rigged game.
Perhaps we shouldn't be surprised. It's little wonder that in the disorientating modern world, men should seek out extreme measures to help them relate to, and get what they want from, the opposite sex. That probably explains the rise of Julien Blanc, who claims his seminars can transform the way women will respond to you. Blanc is at the extreme end of a movement known as "pick-up artists" or PUAs.
Although I strongly disagree with the PUA strategy, at some point it will catch up with them as individuals, I can't argue with their tactics as a group being that they do work. I don't think they are in any state of crisis either. The current situation is a Fracking Boom for PUAs.
Valizadeh has some controversial views on the state of modern womanhood, too. He says: "It's also damaging that the attractiveness of women is rapidly declining, mainly due to the obesity epidemic. No matter what members of the 'fat acceptance' movement say, men have an innate need for fit women. What happens is the few attractive girls left get unimaginable amounts of attention."
The truth is controversial?
According to Valizadeh, today's sexual marketplace represents a Pareto distribution in which "20 percent of the top guys have access to 80 percent of the best women," which has the effect of leaving women holding out for the perfect man, a man who of course never comes.
Yeap, it's polygamy on a mass scale.
Men want normal relationships that include sex, says Valizadeh. Some of them will read pick-up artist books or go to seminars by people such as Roosh V (Return Of Kings) if they don't get it or need to be trained out of "white knight" behaviours instilled in them by a female-dominated culture. (Men have been taught that being a nice guy gets you laid. It doesn't.)
Right again, I tried to be nice and it definitely doesn't work but I'm not turning into Charles Manson either. So if that's what they want they can all have each other. The whole thing is disgusting to me.
What strikes a lot of women as strange is how rational and systematic so much of this decision-making is by men. Many young men literally perform a cost-benefit analysis and decide that women aren't worth the hassle.
No... really? What a shocker. Actually the hassles have always been there. Nothing new under the sun there. What has changed is the punitive measures men face when those hassles materialize that makes it not worth the trouble.
From here it covers some already familiar double standards, then goes into the bizarre and off into territory I'm staying out of so I'll just skip to the end.
The response to part one of this series was colossal. To date, over 300,000 readers have shared it on Facebook. 16,500 readers left comments. Over 500 men wrote to me privately to express their gratitude and support, from every continent and in all age groups. The younger men spoke especially movingly. (Predictably, hundreds of angry feminists on Twitter scorned it as "entitled whinging from white male manbabies," rather proving the point of the story's premise for me.)
Uh hu... yeah.. beginning to understand now are we? There is a reason we call them the FemBorg Collective. They have only one response to all logic...
Reason is futile.
He even plugs MGTOW as a separate entity and not just lumped in with MRA's as a whole.
We can be quite sure now that the sexodus is not some fringe, isolated internet movement as "Men Going Their Own Way" has sometimes been characterized. A combination of disastrous social engineering, special privileges for women, the relentless mockery of white men on the basis of their sex and skin color and the economic and educational abandonment for boys has created one, if not two, lost generations already.
I'll happily take fringe and isolated because there was a time in this country when slaves went from being whipped severely for running off the plantation to getting hung until dead once the idea of freedom became too popular. MGTOW becoming too popularizd may be the reason Barbarossa doesn't like this post all to none.
Nice logo dude.
In the end our fleeting observationalist wraps things up with the usual Parthian shot - men bad / women victims trope but we'll shed some light on that notion as well.
Men created most of what is good about the world. The excesses of masculinity are also, to be sure, responsible for much of what is bad.
To be exact, it is men throwing each other under the bus for pussy is what all the bad is about. If the majority of men ever learned to separate their self worth from female approval there wouldn't be all this violence to get into that top 20% fight club. That's not the nature of most men though so it's not just the Feminists that MGTOW need to go ghost from.
Maybe they just need a little help with this perilous new concept and none other than John The Other aka JTO does his level best to slay that dragon for them.
It's actually a very good explanation of MGTOW but it's all going to fall on deaf ears if he really intends this to be for women. Even if they could understand MGTOW they don't want too. What they do want is to be rescued from it. The reason women understand Chivalry but not MGTOW is because of Female Solipsism. If something doesn't directly benefit women then it simply does not exist or they can't understand it. Not in their self obsessed world. Chivalry is obviously a direct benefit to women while MGTOW is not. Not at the moment anyway. I have seen women attempt to understand MGTOW by redefining it as something else. To them MGTOW only becomes understandable when a man departs from his individualist path to focus all his male utility on women or a woman. When a man directs his energies to supporting, dating or marrying a woman. Then they "get it" then it becomes "understandable". Only then and under those circumstances does MGTOW become a female approved activity for men to engage in. Oh what a miracle. So good luck with that dude but don't play into the trap. They are playing dumb for a reason. Women will never allow themselves to understand MGTOW in it's current form as long as it is of no benefit to them. And that's not how that game is played. MGTOW... They Play Their Games and We Play Ours.
There is an article over on Breibart London concerning men dumping society in general and women in particular that has attracted quiet a bit of attention. As of this morning it has some 14,000 comments and going. I wasn't going to do a post on it because I thought someone else would pick up on it and the stupid page kept crashing from all the ads loading anyway but since I don't see anyone else flagging it I'll put it up here. I did manage to grab the article in between crashes so I'm going to put the thing up without my interruption just because of the fact that it is attracting enough attention that the Feminazis in their zeal for equality may attempt to have it removed. Some speech is more equal than others.
"Nobody in my generation believes they're going to get a meaningful retirement. We have a third or a quarter of the wealth previous generations had, and everyone's fleeing to higher education to stave off unemployment and poverty because there are no jobs.
"All that wouldn't be so bad if we could at least dull the pain with girls. But we're treated like paedophiles and potential rapists just for showing interest. My generation are the beautiful ones," he sighs, referring to a 1960s experiment on mice that supposedly predicted a grim future for the human race.
After overpopulation ran out of control, the female mice in John Calhoun's "mouse universe" experiment stopped breeding, and the male mice withdrew from the company of others entirely, eating, sleeping, feeding and grooming themselves but doing little else. They had shiny coats, but empty lives.
"The parallels are astounding," says Rupert.
Never before in history have relations between the sexes been so fraught with anxiety, animosity and misunderstanding. To radical feminists, who have been the driving force behind many tectonic societal shifts in recent decades, that's a sign of success: they want to tear down the institutions and power structures that underpin society, never mind the fall-out. Nihilistic destruction is part of their road map.
But, for the rest of us, the sight of society breaking down, and ordinary men and women being driven into separate but equal misery, thanks to a small but highly organised group of agitators, is distressing. Particularly because, as increasing numbers of social observers are noticing, an entire generation of young people—mostly men—are being left behind in the wreckage of this social engineering project.
Social commentators, journalists, academics, scientists and young men themselves have all spotted the trend: among men of about 15 to 30 years old, ever-increasing numbers are checking out of society altogether, giving up on women, sex and relationships and retreating into pornography, sexual fetishes, chemical addictions, video games and, in some cases, boorish lad culture, all of which insulate them from a hostile, debilitating social environment created, some argue, by the modern feminist movement.
You can hardly blame them. Cruelly derided as man-children and crybabies for objecting to absurdly unfair conditions in college, bars, clubs and beyond, men are damned if they do and damned if they don't: ridiculed as basement-dwellers for avoiding aggressive, demanding women with unrealistic expectations, or called rapists and misogynists merely for expressing sexual interest.
Jack Rivlin is editor-in-chief of student tabloid media start-up The Tab, a runaway success whose current strap-line reads: "We'll stop writing it when you stop reading it." As the guiding intelligence behind over 30 student newspapers, Rivlin is perhaps the best-placed person in the country to observe this trend in action. And he agrees that the current generation of young men find it particularly difficult to engage with women.
"Teenage boys always have been useless with girls, but there's definitely a fear that now being well-intentioned isn't enough, and you can get into trouble just for being clumsy," he says. "For example, leaning in for a kiss might see you branded a creep, rather than just inept."
The new rules men are expected to live by are never clearly explained, says Rivlin, leaving boys clueless and neurotic about interacting with girls. "That might sound like a good thing because it encourages men to take the unromantic but practical approach of asking women how they should behave, but it causes a lot of them to just opt out of the game and retreat to the sanctuary of their groups of lads, where being rude to women gets you approval, and you can pretty much entirely avoid one-on-one socialising with the opposite sex."
"There are also a lot of blokes who ignore women because they are scared and don't know how to act. It goes without saying that boys who never spend any time alone with women are not very good at relationships."
Rivlin has noticed the increased dependence on substances, normally alcohol, that boys are using to calm their nerves. "I've heard a lot of male students boast about never having experienced sober sex," he says. "They're obviously scared, which is natural, but they would be a lot less scared and dysfunctional if they understood 'the rules.'"
The result? "A lot of nice but awkward young men are opting out of approaching women because there is no opportunity for them to make mistakes without suffering worse embarrassment than ever."
Most troublingly, this effect is felt more acutely among poorer and less well educated communities, where the package of support resources available to young men is slight. At my alma mater, the University of Cambridge, the phenomenon barely registers on the radar, according to Union society president Tim Squirrell.
"I don't think I've really noticed a change recently," he says. "This year has seen the introduction of mandatory consent workshops for freshers, which I believe is probably a good thing, and there's been a big effort by the Women's Campaign in particular to try and combat lad culture on campus.
The atmosphere here is the same as it was a year ago - mostly nerdy guys who are too afraid to approach anyone in the first place, and then a smaller percentage who are confident enough to make a move. Obviously women have agency too, and they approach men in about the same numbers as they do elsewhere. There certainly haven't been any stories in [campus newspaper] The Tab about a sex drought on campus."
"I think that people are probably having as much sex as ever," he adds. At Cambridge, of course, that may not mean much, and for a variety of socioeconomic and class-based reasons the tribes at Oxford and Cambridge are somewhat insulated from the male drop-out effect.
But even at such a prestigious university with a largely middle- and upper-class population, those patronising, mandatory "consent" classes are still being implemented. Squirrell, who admits to being a feminist with left-of-centre politics, thinks they're a good idea. But academics such as Camille Paglia have been warning for years that "rape drives" on campus put women at greater risk, if anything.
Women today are schooled in victimhood, taught to be aggressively vulnerable and convinced that the slightest of perceived infractions, approaches or clumsy misunderstandings represents "assault," "abuse" or "harassment." That may work in the safe confines of campus, where men can have their academic careers destroyed on the mere say-so of a female student.
But, according to Paglia, when that women goes out into the real world without the safety net of college rape committees, she is left totally unprepared for the sometimes violent reality of male sexuality. And the panics and fear-mongering are serving men even more poorly. All in all, education is becoming a miserable experience for boys.
In schools today across Britain and America, boys are relentlessly pathologised, as academics were warning as long ago as 2001. Boyishness and boisterousness have come to be seen as "problematic," with girls' behaviour a gold standard against which these defective boys are measured. When they are found wanting, the solution is often drugs.
Meanwhile, boys are falling behind girls academically, perhaps because relentless and well-funded focus has been placed on girls' achievement in the past few decades and little to none on the boys who are now achieving lower grades, fewer honors, fewer degrees and less marketable information economy skills. Boys' literacy, in particular, is in crisis throughout the West. We've been obsessing so much over girls, we haven't noticed that boys have slipped into serious academic trouble.
So what happened to those boys who, in 2001, were falling behind girls at school, were less likely to go to college, were being given drugs they did not need and whose self-esteem and confidence issues haven't just been ignored, but have been actively ridiculed by the feminist Establishment that has such a stranglehold on teaching unions and Left-leaning political parties?
In short: they grew up, dysfunctional, under-served by society, deeply miserable and, in many cases, entirely unable to relate to the opposite sex. It is the boys who were being betrayed by the education system and by culture at large in such vast numbers between 1990 and 2010 who represent the first generation of what I call the sexodus, a large-scale exit from mainstream society by males who have decided they simply can't face, or be bothered with, forming healthy relationships and participating fully in their local communities, national democracies and other real-world social structures.
The sexodus didn't arrive out of nowhere, and the same pressures that have forced so many millennials out of society exert pressure on their parent's generation, too. One professional researcher in his late thirties, about whom I have been conversing on this topic for some months, puts it spicily: "For the past, at least, 25 years, I've been told to do more and more to keep a woman. But nobody's told me what they're doing to keep me.
"I can tell you as a heterosexual married male in management, who didn’t drop out of society, the message from the chicks is: 'It's not just preferable that you should fuck off, but imperative. You must pay for everything and make everything work; but you yourself and your preferences and needs can fuck off and die.'"
Women have been sending men mixed messages for the last few decades, leaving boys utterly confused about what they are supposed to represent to women, which perhaps explains the strong language some of them use when describing their situation. As the role of breadwinner has been taken away from them by women who earn more and do better in school, men are left to intuit what to do, trying to find a virtuous mean between what women say they want and what they actually pursue, which can be very different things.
Men say the gap between what women say and what they do has never been wider. Men are constantly told they should be delicate, sensitive fellow travellers on the feminist path. But the same women who say they want a nice, unthreatening boyfriend go home and swoon over simple-minded, giant-chested, testosterone-saturated hunks in Game of Thrones. Men know this, and, for some, this giant inconsistency makes the whole game look too much like hard work. Why bother trying to work out what a woman wants, when you can play sports, masturbate or just play video games from the comfort of your bedroom?
Jack Donovan, a writer based in Portland who has written several books on men and masculinity, each of which has become a cult hit, says the phenomenon is already endemic among the adult population. "I do see a lot of young men who would otherwise be dating and marrying giving up on women," he explains, "Or giving up on the idea of having a wife and family. This includes both the kind of men who would traditionally be a little awkward with women, and the kind of men who aren't awkward with women at all.
"They've done a cost-benefit analysis and realised it is a bad deal. They know that if they invest in a marriage and children, a woman can take all of that away from them on a whim. So they use apps like Tinder and OK Cupid to find women to have protected sex with and resign themselves to being 'players,' or when they get tired of that, 'boyfriends.'"
He goes on: "Almost all young men have attended mandatory sexual harassment and anti-rape seminars, and they know that they can be fired, expelled or arrested based more or less on the word of any woman. They know they are basically guilty until proven innocent in most situations." Donovan lays much of the blame for the way men feel at the door of the modern feminist movement and what he sees as its disingenuousness. "The young men who are struggling the most are conflicted because they are operating under the assumption that feminists are arguing in good faith," he says, "When in fact they are engaged in a zero-sum struggle for sexual, social, political and economic status—and they're winning.
"The media now allows radical feminists to frame all debates, in part because sensationalism attracts more clicks than any sort of fair or balanced discourse. Women can basically say anything about men, no matter how denigrating, to a mix of cheers and jeers."
Donovan has views on why it has been so easy for feminists to triumph in media battles. "Because men instinctively want to protect women and play the hero, if a man writes even a tentative criticism of women or feminism, he's denounced by men and women alike as some kind of extremist scoundrel. The majority of "men's studies" and "men's rights" books and blogs that aren't explicitly pro-feminist are littered with apologies to women.
"Books like The Myth of Male Power and sites like A Voice for Men are favourite boogeymen of feminists, but only because they call out feminists' one-sided hypocrisy when it comes to pursing 'equality.'"
Unlike modern feminists, who are driving a wedge between the sexes, Men's Rights Activists "actually seem to want sexual equality," he says. But men's studies authors and male academics are constantly tip-toeing around and making sure they don't appear too radical. Their feminine counterparts have no suchforbearance, of course, with what he calls "hipster feminists," such as the Guardian's Jessica Valenti parading around in t-shirts that read: "I BATHE IN MALE TEARS." "I'm a critic of feminism," says Donovan. "But I would never walk around wearing a shirt that says, "I MAKE WOMEN CRY." I'd just look like a jerk and a bully."
It's the contention of academics, sociologists and writers like Jack Donovan that an atmosphere of relentless, jeering hostility to men from entitled middle-class media figures, plus a few confused male collaborators in the feminist project, has been at least partly responsible for a generation of boys who simply don't want to know.
In Part 2, we'll meet some of the men who have "checked out," given up on sex and relationships and sunk into solitary pursuits or alcohol-fuelled lad culture. And we'll discover that the real victims of modern feminism are, of course, women themselves, who have been left lonelier and less satisfied than they have ever been.
A little bit of shaming going on here but overall it's true. Men do get confused by all the conflicting messages and I think that is intentional. It is designed that way so men can be taken advantage of in their confusion or Blue Pill state but sooner or later every man does do his own cost benefit analysis, swallows that Red Pill and figures out that it isn't worth all the trouble.
"I can tell you as a heterosexual married male in management, who didn’t drop out of society, the message from the chicks is: 'It's not just preferable that you should fuck off, but imperative. You must pay for everything and make everything work; but you yourself and your preferences and needs can fuck off and die.'" That dude is right, that is exactly their attitude and exactly the attitude I was running into and as a result of this prevailing attitude The Exodus by men is what follows. All that shaming and manipulation to keep men on the plantation does work at first but inadvertently results in them leaving it. It gets to be too much, too soon and too obvious. Again, I think that is intentional but on a level higher than societal where women and society are just the useful idiots in the process to keep men and women at war with one another. My war is over though and that is the brilliant part of MGTOW. By simply leaving the battlefield I win and so does each man that does the same. That doesn't mean the parasites won't come after us, they most certainly will but they will have to catch us first and we already have a head start on them. MGTOW... OMW To The Promised Land.
Paul Joseph Watson of InfoWars picks up on the story.
Yes he does use the term White Knight and gets that it doesn't work for men. I suspect he has been researching the Man-O-Sphere and will likely out it at some point. He certainly isn't a Feminist Mangina and understand how Feminism with all it's insanity is the tip of the spear in the Divide and Conquer strategy for those determined to destroy humanity.